The 5 Basics
So many questions, too many vague answers. How long should you wait before calling her/him for the first time? How do you get the number? What should you do on the 1st date? How should you act? What to wear? What NOT to wear? How to behave?... and the list goes on... and on... and on....
Alright, let's start with the basics.
Rule Numero Uno: ALWAYS BE YOURSELF.
If she or he don't like you for you, than they're not meant for you. Simple as poppin' a pimple. Too many try to change themselves so they can impress that special someone they're interested in. But most times, if not ALL times, that doesn't work, and if in the rare occasion it does, they don't last. We all wanna be cared for and admired for whom we are, not who we're trying to be.
The relationships that last, are the ones where both are being themselves from the get-go and stay true to each other and one another all the time.
Regle Number Two: BE A GENTLEMAN / GENTLELADY
It seems like it's some kinda norm now, girls just fall for losers that don't treat them right, than what happens? Girl runs to nice guy, nice guy is there for her, but she don't see that she's hurting herself and the one that she's really looking for (or hoping for) is right in front of her eyes. How many have been there? On either side? Hey, I'm not embarrassed to say I was... Before MoeCash became MoeCash, he was just a boy trying to understand the world and himself... and part of that process is spending some time understanding women. Listening helps A LOT.... oh yeah, Golden Rule in Everything and Anything: ALWAYS LISTEN BEFORE TALKING... And Listen not for the sake of it, Listen to Process Information and Store it As Knowledge... So you may share it later as Wisdom.
Okay, so I got a lil' sidetracked there... Where Was I? Oh yeah, Rule Number 2...
If you don't want to be treated like a Jackass, Don't Act like One. If you don't want to be treated like a Bimbo: Don't Act like One. Want to be respected? It's simple, Be the lady God meant you to Be. Guys, want to get the girl? You spot one in a library or on the train or in your class and want to approach her and don't know how? Just be yourself and be a Gentleman... Trust me, that goes a long way rather than the "Yo Yo Baby Yo, Wussuuuup?!". Plus, a Real Lady Recognize a Real Gentleman, ya know. And see it this way: If she's real, she'll respond to the gentleman... One slight problem though, because girls get hit on a lot, and I mean ALL THE TIME, and mostly by too many losers, the G-men don't always get noticed... or maybe not right away.... so don't take it personal if she thinks you're trynna play her... Which takes me to the next law...
Rule Number 3: DON'T TAKE IT PERSONAL AND STAY PATIENT
If you approach a girl and she's not interrested or not vibing with you, don't sweat it, it's all good. Just be nice, smile and wish her well. Ladies, if you're running after a guy who's made it clear he's not into you, don't worry about it, it's all Good. That ain't the right man. Someone else it out there for you, don't take it personal if sometimes life doesn't give you what you want right away... Patience is key, and Life always delivers to the patient ones.
Rule Number 4: CONFIDENCE IS THE MEASURE OF YOUR BELIEF IN YOURSELF
That's my motto. I'm sharing it here cuz I believe it's so true. The more Confidence you got, the more you believe in yourself... and nothing is more appealing to a lady, than a man with confidence. On the ladies side, I'll say that from a guy's perspective, the more confidence a lady got, the more she'll be taken more seriously. Okay, I know that sounds kinda harsh so lemme explain...
If you don't value yourself, or the beauty you've been blessed with, than expect that the man won't also. On the flip side, if you cherish yourself, you naturally will have more confidence, a man will notice that and treat you with more respect.
last one for tonight... errrr, should I say, Very Early this mornin'
Rule Numero Cinco: LAUGHTER GOES A LONG WAY
One of the best ways to sense if you're compatible with someone, well at least from my own personal experiences, is if you have comedic chemistry. Usually, we get along with people that makes us feel comfortable, and make us smile... and make us laugh. I never understood stiff people who can't break out a smile, I know I might seem like that in my pics, but if you ask anybody that knows me, I'm practically always smiling. Anyways, enough about me, back to the subject...
IF you approach a girl you like, and you're being yourself, and a gentleman, and confident, try cracking a simple joke to break the ice, if she laughs, that's usually a good sign she's feelin' comfortable. And girls, if you sense the guy is being honest, and has approached you maturely, cut him some slack and laugh along, you never know what you could be missing out on if you don't give the honest guy a chance. Wouldn't you rather be with someone that wants to make you smile rather than make you cry?
Well, that's all I can think of for now... I need to go rest, ahhhhhh, the life of a night owl... good thing I got my sexy white MacLady keepin' me company, where would I be without my baby lol
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